Her Prophet Speaks
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nebris“Six days ago, a nicely-dressed man waiting on the platform for the 6 train zipped down his fly and exposed his penis to me. I turned around and hid behind the corner until I saw an officer and reported it.”
As the author was obviously psycho-emotionally incapable of dealing with a Predator, running and hiding was probably the best course of action. But there is a word for those who have to 'run and hide' from Predators; Prey.
The Key Element in the Ideology of Victim Feminism is that society is supposed to make All Of Us Safe All The Time. That is also the Ideology of The Petite Bourgeois. And it is clearly an illusion, one that turns all who believe it into Prey, because they then have no personal capacity to defend either themselves or their loved ones. Any reasonable person understands that society *cannot* make All Of Us Safe All The Time, yet so many act as if it could, usually by demanding laws that prohibit this, that and the other, as if Universal Safety could be legislated.
But really, the most effective way to stop rape [and I'm going to yell this] IS TO HURT/WOUND/KILL THE RAPIST! And that requires a *serious* change in mind set, from that of Prey [aka victim] to one of Predator, albeit a benign version of said. That mind set would prevent quite a few rapes because Rapists are functionally cowards who seek the vulnerable and, as such, avoid other Predators.
Now some of you are already seething that I'm “blaming the victim” etc. But if one does not fully pay attention to the true reality of one's environment, who else then is responsible? Life Is Dangerous. Period. And no, that's not Fair or Just or Right, but it most certainly is What Is So. You can accept that and prepare accordingly. Or you can be Prey.
Back to the opening quote. If the author had diligently studied Krav Maga or Mui Thai or Impact Self Defense, when that asshole flashed his dick, she would have had the mind set to confront him because she'd know she could kick the living shit out of him. Maybe that would stop his behavior, although he'd probably just look for Prey elsewhere. And, because at least 85% of human communication is non-verbal, being that she was now a Predator herself, her body language would 'speak that' and he may not have tried that crap in the first place.
We like to think we're separate from Nature, but we carry Her around inside of all of us. In Nature there are Predators and there are Prey. As Humans, we have the ability to pick which one we choose to be. And the 'Not Choosing' Default is to become Prey.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/anna-c-bloomberg/my-friend-dated-my-rapist_b_5985390.html
PS I didn't post the above at the OP. It would have just traumatized the author some more and likely kick off a flame war that I'm not in the mood to conduct. But IMHO you lot here are made of tougher stuff.
As the author was obviously psycho-emotionally incapable of dealing with a Predator, running and hiding was probably the best course of action. But there is a word for those who have to 'run and hide' from Predators; Prey.
The Key Element in the Ideology of Victim Feminism is that society is supposed to make All Of Us Safe All The Time. That is also the Ideology of The Petite Bourgeois. And it is clearly an illusion, one that turns all who believe it into Prey, because they then have no personal capacity to defend either themselves or their loved ones. Any reasonable person understands that society *cannot* make All Of Us Safe All The Time, yet so many act as if it could, usually by demanding laws that prohibit this, that and the other, as if Universal Safety could be legislated.
But really, the most effective way to stop rape [and I'm going to yell this] IS TO HURT/WOUND/KILL THE RAPIST! And that requires a *serious* change in mind set, from that of Prey [aka victim] to one of Predator, albeit a benign version of said. That mind set would prevent quite a few rapes because Rapists are functionally cowards who seek the vulnerable and, as such, avoid other Predators.
Now some of you are already seething that I'm “blaming the victim” etc. But if one does not fully pay attention to the true reality of one's environment, who else then is responsible? Life Is Dangerous. Period. And no, that's not Fair or Just or Right, but it most certainly is What Is So. You can accept that and prepare accordingly. Or you can be Prey.
Back to the opening quote. If the author had diligently studied Krav Maga or Mui Thai or Impact Self Defense, when that asshole flashed his dick, she would have had the mind set to confront him because she'd know she could kick the living shit out of him. Maybe that would stop his behavior, although he'd probably just look for Prey elsewhere. And, because at least 85% of human communication is non-verbal, being that she was now a Predator herself, her body language would 'speak that' and he may not have tried that crap in the first place.
We like to think we're separate from Nature, but we carry Her around inside of all of us. In Nature there are Predators and there are Prey. As Humans, we have the ability to pick which one we choose to be. And the 'Not Choosing' Default is to become Prey.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/anna-c-bloomberg/my-friend-dated-my-rapist_b_5985390.html
PS I didn't post the above at the OP. It would have just traumatized the author some more and likely kick off a flame war that I'm not in the mood to conduct. But IMHO you lot here are made of tougher stuff.
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Date: 2014-10-22 12:11 am (UTC)One can indeed -- but Grandma didn't even think of it, then or afterwards. He expressed himself, she expressed herself, he left, defeated.
Had he attacked, she would have defended -- but this may point to a cultural difference between then and now; she didn't interpret his gesture as an assault. Unwelcome interaction, yes, but assault in that era was defined by specific physical force, which wasn't offered or threatened in this case.
On Tuesday, October 21, 2014 3:36 PM, nebris - DW Comment dw_null@dreamwidth.org wrote:
The Divine Mr. M (nebris) replied to a comment you left in a Dreamwidth entry "Her Prophet Speaks". The comment they replied to was: The point of the above anecdote is that one doesn't have to become a predator to not be prey. A bull doesn't become a predator by defending his herd, but I'm still not going to mess with him. The reply was: One can do some serious damage with crochet needles. From here you can: * Reply at the webpage * View all comments to this entry * Go to the top of the thread this comment is part of * View the thread beginning with this comment You can reply to this comment by replying to this email. Your comment needs to be the very first thing in the reply email and appear before all other text. Do not change the reply-to address, as it uses a secret address to post your reply. You should reset the secret address if you've accidentally shared it with anyone else.